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Almost eight years ago (December 2013), I wrote this blog when my family and I were going through pain, difficulty and darkness that was so deep I did not know if I would be able to get out of it. As our current situation drags on, I thought this entry and the lessons God taught me might be of help to you.
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A lot has gone on in our family in recent days that I still cannot talk about. It has taken me to places that I never thought I would go. For a couple of days, I had to cling to what I knew to be true because in my heart I had lost hope. I am a fixer and I seem to be dealing more and more often with things that I cannot fix. It has been a hard journey.
The first eye-opening time I realized that I could not fix everything was a rude awakening. I found out that I was not the Holy Spirit! I am sure you are just as shocked as I was! I figured if I spoke the right words, used the right verses or stuck with troubled people long enough, at some point they would see the wisdom of my words and “get it.” God taught me the important lesson that He was the Holy Spirit and I was just a messenger. Then God allowed me the privilege to be the lead person in a church plant. Once again, I learned another important lesson. I can’t fix everything.
So, I can’t fix everyone and I can’t fix everything? So, what CAN I do? God has still gifted me with fixing, so He still uses that gift but just not in every situation. It is like using duct tape. There are times it works great but building a house with it would be a problem.
I really thought I was learning the lessons that God wanted. He had allowed a lot of difficult things to happen in our lives that I could not fix, but then the ground dropped out from underneath me. I found out in the deepest of ways that not only can I not fix what I thought I could but I could not even fix me! I felt like I was hurtling down a black hole. “What do I do now God? What do you want from me? I cannot handle this one Lord – it is too much!!” These were some of the questions and discussions that I had with God.
So, what did I do? In the midst of all of my uncertainly and hopelessness I did what I knew I had to do. I clung on to what I knew was true. God is Sovereign. God does love me. God does have a plan in all of this pain and numbness. You see, I had to learn to walk by faith and not by sight in a new way. I did not feel like God loved me. I thought God had really blown this one. I wondered why God would allow me to hurt so deeply with no end in sight. A friend of mine put it this way. Sometimes when you do not know what else to do you grab onto God’s ankle and let Him drag you around.
I felt and still do at times feel that way. My family and I are trying to get used to a new normal. A normal I am not comfortable with. I do not understand it and I still wish God would let me fix it. But I am not God. I do not know what is truly best. I may never know this side of heaven. I am not sure what else God has in store for me or my family but I do not want to lose hope again. I am ashamed that I did, but I know God has and will use it not only in my life but to help others who have felt the same way. Maybe just this entry will help. I am sure there are others who have felt this way and never verbalized it. Remember this: the sun will come up tomorrow and God does have a plan and loves you especially when everything does not make sense to us. So just grab on and see where He takes you. It might not be fun but it will be life changing and He will be there with you the whole time even when sometimes He seems too quiet.